Birth trauma is a significant issue, silently affecting many adult around the world. While the prevalence of birth trauma is difficult to estimate accurately, some studies suggest that one third of all women have a traumatic birth experience.
Traumatic birth experiences never look or feel the same. They are deeply personal and can include a wide range of experiences from physical injury to emotional trauma. Emergency C-sections, postpartum haemorrhages, and fetal distress are common.
The truth is, birth trauma can have significant and long-lasting effects on your mental and physical health decades later. I help adults heal from the traumatic imprints of their conception, in utero and birth experience so that they can reclaim their health, their self worth and their future. The focus of this blog post is chronic fatigue syndrome and it's connection with birth trauma.
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What is Chronic Fatigue Syndrome?
Imagine a world where exhaustion is constant (physically, mentally and emotionally) and where the simple act of getting out of bed can feel like climbing a huge mountain. Imagine a world where inspite of all your efforts, you can't stay awake for more than a few hours, can't take care of yourself or your children and feel plagued by guilt and shame. You visit your doctor and they tell you, there's nothing that can be done. It feels totally hopeless.
Chronic fatigue, also known as myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME), is a debilitating neurological condition that affects around a million people in the US- most of them women. Infact, women are 4 times more likely to experience chronic fatigue syndrome compared to men. Science still has no explanation for this.
I suggest, it might be because chronic fatigue is the physical manifestation of the traumatic birth imprint, where trauma and stress has been passed down from the mother to the child.
Women with chronic fatigue often experience profound fatigue that is not improved by rest or sleep, as well as a range of other symptoms such as cognitive difficulties, pain, and sleep disturbances.
Chronic fatigue completely destroys people's sense of 'normality' and happiness and their quality of life. It limits their ability to work, socialise, and even look after their children. This can lead to deep emotional pain, isolation and depression. If left untreated, symptoms can get worse until the entire family is affected. A quarter of people diagnosed with CFS end up bed bound which puts stress on the partner who is now a carer, and the entire family unit. If you are suffering with CFS and reading this, please reach out to me to resolve the root causes once and for all.
The Connection between Chronic Fatigue and Nervous System Dysregulation
Chronic fatigue and nervous system disregulation are closely related. The nervous system plays a crucial role in regulating our body's responses to stress, and when it is dysregulated, it can lead to a range of physical and emotional symptoms, including chronic fatigue.
In particular, chronic fatigue has been linked to dysregulation of the autonomic nervous system (ANS), which is responsible for regulating the body's automatic functions such as heart rate, breathing, and digestion. When the ANS is dysregulated, it can lead to a state of chronic stress, which can cause fatigue and other symptoms.
Additionally, chronic fatigue has also been associated with abnormalities in the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis, which is another part of the nervous system involved in regulating the body's response to stress. Dysregulation of the HPA axis can lead to imbalances in hormones such as cortisol, which can contribute to symptoms of fatigue and other related symptoms.
Overall, chronic fatigue and nervous system dysregulation are closely related, with dysregulation of the ANS and HPA axis playing important roles in the development and persistence of chronic fatigue. Understanding and addressing these dysregulations through various treatment modalities, such as stress-reduction techniques, medication, and lifestyle changes, can help manage symptoms and improve quality of life for individuals with chronic fatigue.
Read more about how stress is transmitted in utero through the HPA Axis in my blog article here
CASE Study: Sammy's Healing Journey
(name and identifiable details have been changed)
Sammy had been dealing with chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS) for 8 long years. She was constantly tired and in pain, and it was really hard for her.
She had tried so many different things to feel better - medicines, relaxation techniques, even changing her diet to be vegan. But nothing seemed to help. Therapist after therapist had tried to give her hope, but she just ended up feeling more lost and frustrated.
Finally, she got the diagnosis of CFS. But this just made things worse. Her life became a blur - she could barely stay awake past 1 in the afternoon. She lost her job, her marriage fell apart, and she even struggled to connect with her own kids, getting angry at them when she couldn't control how she felt.
Sammy had tried everything she could think of, but the idea of getting better felt impossible. But deep down, she still had a glimmer of hope. She was determined to find a way to take her life back.
What Sammy didn't know was that the key to her recovery might be in dealing with some hidden wounds from her past - the trauma of her own birth. This was something she had never explored before, but it could be the key to unlocking her health.
Maternal Transference: A Bridge to Deeper Understanding
As I listened to Sammy's story, I felt an unexpected surge of emotion welling up within me. Despite having heard countless tales of struggle and resilience in my line of work, I found myself feeling deeply engrossed in her journey, almost in awe of her unwavering determination to find a cure for herself. She had tried every treatment under the sun over the past eight years, and yet she still remained steadfast, committed to her healing journey. In a strange way, I even felt a sense of pride for her.
But as I delved deeper into this unexpected reaction, I couldn't help but wonder where these feelings were coming from. Who was I to Sammy, really? It was then that the realization dawned on me – the process of transference had already begun to unfold.
Transference, a powerful and often misunderstood phenomenon in the realm of therapy, occurs when a client unconsciously redirects their feelings, thoughts, and behaviors towards their therapist, often rooted in past relationships and experiences. In that moment, as Sammy shared her story with me, a subtle yet profound connection had been forged, one that transcended the boundaries of our professional relationship.
I found myself slipping into the role of a supportive, almost parental figure, eager to guide Sammy through the treacherous terrain of her illness. My heart swelled with a desire to see her succeed, to witness her rise above the challenges that had haunted her for so long. It was as if her journey had become my own, a deeply personal investment in her well-being.
Yet, I knew that I must tread carefully, for the power of transference could be a double-edged sword. If not navigated with the utmost care and awareness, it could inadvertently hinder the therapeutic process, creating an imbalance of power and potentially undermining Sammy's autonomy in her own healing journey.
As I sat with this newfound understanding, I realized the importance of acknowledging and exploring the transference dynamic that had begun to take shape. By doing so, I could harness its potential to deepen our therapeutic connection, while also maintaining the necessary boundaries to ensure Sammy's safety and empowerment throughout her path to recovery.
Assessing Sammy's Holistic Well-Being
As I began my examination of Sammy, I couldn't help but notice the severity of her condition. Her cranial base felt compressed, with a strong left torsion palpable in her neck, almost as unyielding as a rock. It was evident that the flow of fluids was impeded, with a strong tugging sensation emanating from her right shoulder.
Delving deeper, I observed an imbalance in her kidneys and adrenal glands, a depletion that demanded attention. And while her legs remained motionless on the table, an energetic turmoil was palpable, as if her body was engaged in a desperate fight for survival, her emotional self screaming out in a gut-wrenching fear of death.
"I feel really comfortable with you," Sammy said as she lay on the treatment table. "I don't know why because I don't even know you."
I was surprised by her candid admission, yet I felt an immediate resonance. She was entrusting me with her body, and I could sense her system reaching out to mine, as if seeking a connection.
In that moment, I felt something within me responding, a desire to reach back out to her. I attuned to this dynamic, allowing it to develop and unfold, aware that the unconscious field between us held a deeper significance.
As I continued my holistic assessment, I knew that unraveling the complexities of Sammy's condition would require a delicate dance, one that navigated the uncharted territories of the mind-body connection. It was a journey that demanded my utmost care and attention, for the path to her healing was intricately woven with the unseen threads of the therapeutic relationship.
The Transference Field and a Healing Journey
I was suddenly overcome with an immense wave of exhaustion, despite only having been in the therapy session with Sammy for a mere fifteen minutes. It was as if time had become irrelevant, and the intensity of the moment had taken over. As I allowed myself to sink deeper into this feeling, I noticed that Sammy's body had become increasingly restless, with her legs kicking and squirming uncomfortably. It was as if she was fighting for her life. In that moment, I realized that we had both become immersed in the transference field, with me assuming the role of the mother and Sammy embodying the struggling infant.
As I grappled with how to navigate this intense energy, an image flashed before me - a tiny baby with the umbilical cord wrapped tightly around its neck. It became clear that Sammy's birth was a traumatic experience, one that had been replayed in her body and mind throughout her life. Despite the fear and uncertainty, I knew that I needed to help her release this trauma, to remove the figurative cord that had been holding her back for so long. Together, we took the first steps towards healing.
'Sammy, what do you know about your birth?' I asked
'I was just about to say- I can see my birth happening right now. I have the umbilical cord around my neck. I can't get it off....' her voice trailed off into the silence.'
Sammy was slipping away into a dissociative state, a state that had become all too familiar to her throughout her childhood and adult life.
'Shall we take this cord off together?' I asked
'Yes...I'm scared..but yes' she replied
And so the work began to free Sammy from the suffocation of her birth trauma
The Transformative Power of Releasing Birth Trauma
With a rapid unwinding of her fascial system, I witnessed Sammy's nervous system release a frantic surge of panic and fear. Intuitively, I supported her entire body as it began to relax and unwind, a palpable shift taking place.
Focusing my attention on the severe compression in her cranial region, I worked to promote an expansion of her entire cranium, simultaneously grounding her sacrum. As her spine and neck lengthened, and the kicking sensations in her legs ceased, Sammy finally found the space to breathe freely.
It was a deeply emotional experience for her, as she shed tears of relief, her body softening and releasing a lifetime of fear and exhaustion. I came to understand that due to the difficult circumstances surrounding her birth, Sammy had absorbed not only her own fatigue but also that of her mother, carrying the weight of her parent's emotional burden in an attempt to alleviate the guilt caused by her own existence.
This blurring of boundaries between Sammy and her mother had led to deep resentment and anger, emotions that she often unknowingly released onto her own childhood. But in that profound moment, Sammy was finally free.
In the subsequent therapy sessions, we worked to integrate the aspects of her in utero and birth experience through her physical structure and organs. Together, we cleared her lymphatic system and provided her with tools to support her emotional awareness and expression.
Delving deeper, we explored the complex tapestry of her guilt, shame, rage, and forgiveness, working to integrate and release these deeply ingrained emotions from the depths of her body and mind. It was a journey of profound healing, one that allowed Sammy to reclaim her sense of self and forge a path towards wholeness.
From Trauma to Triumph: Sammy's Healing Journey and the Power of Transformation
The once-debilitating fatigue that had held Sammy captive for years now seemed but a distant memory. Following the completion of her comprehensive treatment, she reported a significant surge in her energy levels, allowing her to remain awake and alert for the majority of the day.
This newfound vitality had a profound, rippling effect, breathing new life into Sammy's relationships with her children and partner. She found herself fully present and engaged, finally reconnecting with the vibrant, nurturing version of herself that had long been obscured by the relentless fog of her illness.
But the transformation went far beyond just physical rejuvenation. Sammy's mood had also undergone a remarkable shift, the constant aching pain that had once plagued her now a distant echo. It was as if the very core of her being had been realigned, freeing her from the shackles of the trauma that had once defined her existence.
Several months after her initial treatment, Sammy reached out with a triumphant announcement – she had secured a part-time position at a local nursery, fulfilling her lifelong passion for working with and supporting children. This newfound opportunity was more than just a job; it represented the blossoming of a future that had once felt hopelessly out of reach.
Sammy reported a significant surge in her energy levels, allowing her to remain awake and alert for the majority of the day. This newfound vitality had a profound, rippling effect, breathing new life into her relationships with her children and partner. She found herself fully present and engaged, reconnecting with the vibrant, nurturing version of herself that had long been obscured by the relentless fog of her illness.
Her transformation in just a few weeks was nothing short of remarkable, a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of holistic, integrative care. Sammy's story stands as a shining example of what is possible when it comes to healing the root causes of chronic health conditions.
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